[Anita]

We have a six year old daughter, and hope to adopt a preschooler.

During our time, we have incorporated adoption stories into the mix of story time selections. There are plenty of movies that address it too. It has helped open discussions for her. Some of this is beyond the comprehension of a 6 year old.

It concerns her that parents can't take care of their children, would it happen to her? We have always tried to reinforce that some parents have to do what is best their child's future. They still love their children.

I have also let her know we have had to take tests (for lack of a better word) to show we could take care of a child. There are people who are trying to protect the children who need new families.

It is a fine line for a six year old. It has opened her world a great deal. I'd say for the better. She is much more accepting of different. She doesn't really care how her sibling gets here, she just wants one.

We have had a room reserved and decorated. It is referred to as brother's room. All the neighborhood friends are involved too. They ask when will he be here? How much does he cost? All the wonderfully innocent ways they do. We are all excited.

I have had to warn some parents about conversations in our house. My daughter is very open and honest when her friends ask questions. I'm usually near by and can help soften the information. The last thing I want is some child having unexplained nightmares about loosing their family. Like I said, it is a fine line for a six year old.

My daughter and/or friends decide when we talk about it these days. Our journey has been different than most.