[Olivias~mom]

Hi

I know this is only my second post, but I am looking for advice from people who have adopted a baby and then were told there was a sib on the way.

Ok here is a little history. My husband and I have been with our county for over three years and after many foster placements we got a call for an infant girl last August. We are finalizing in two weeks.

Ok, so we wait so long and we are just so happy to have her. Ok, now it is last night. I get a call from our daughters worker she needs to come out and see her. No problem. come on out. Well it seems mom is pregnant again and they wanted to know if we would be willing to take the infant. Mom has lost many to the system - she realizes these children do not fit into her life style and just pretty much walks away.

I was so shocked to say the least. They think she is due mid summer.


I am at a loss as well, we never figured this would happen. I think I am still taking it in. I told my hubby when he got home from work last night and he was very happy. He said it was me telling him I was expecting. A nice moment for him.

Then I called my mom and was telling her and she was not so supportive. She said when these kids graduated school I will be 60. I said no I will be 55. Then she goes on to tell me I am old and do not have the energy of someone in their 20's - let me just say ouch! She then tells me of her concerns about me being able to physically take care of them. Running after them and just keeping up....huhh?!?!

My hubby and I think we can handle the second child. I may be 38 but I am healthy. I may not have the most active lifestyle but I can change that. We have the money. I am afraid to ask her what she is really trying to tell me. Is she afraid I just wont have time for her?

Ok the point of my post is taking another infant and my age. Any suggestions, opinions?