Well, the birth Mom has not called this week its Friday, IM sure she will call to see him on his first Birthday 28 days from now, his birthday is on a Sunday but we are taking the family to Disney for the weekend for his birth day. I asked the case worker first if we could go on his B-day she said yes I do not have to do week end visits with Bio Mom.
I guess when the boyfriend said we want to see him 2 times a week from now on it must have been for shock value. Just to see how we would react.
now I want to say I did get alone with her at first and just like you tried to step back during visits so she could in joy the visits with her son .
I would just sit there in a corner talking to one of the G parents and watched the baby fuss when she would jiggle him or hold him the wrong way.
when he would start to cry she would start passes him back and forth between her parents all hoping that the baby would connect with one of them and stop crying, when ever the baby would cry she give him to grand ma but the baby didn't like her the most IM not sure why he cried she seemed to be OK to me and at least trying , but she tried to comfort him even when on the brink of hysteria and the baby would not stop until someone finally gave up and passed him back to me as he cried ma ma ma ma . grand ma would always say that baby is spoiled rotten
its hard to be the foster Mom when the baby calls you mama
but your not mama this stranger jiggling you the way you hate to be held or jiggled is your ma ma
you just want to say just hand him back to me I no what to do but you can't.
as a foster Mom you just keep putting him threw the stranger visits I think he thinks this is the only time IM not acting like me mama which is to protect him from stress and fear of being held by someone he does not like.you must understand at least one thing he never cry's when anyone has ever held him to this day except them go figure.
I also wonder how the baby's birth mother goes months with out seeing him and keeps her sanity we cant even go to a movie for 2 hours with out calling to see if he's all right we don't go out because I find my self missing him when he is not with me IM OK when my husband has him that's the only time I can truly relax I think that's because they are mad for each other they are equally in love with each other, the baby and my husband are deeply bonded to one anther. I think even more then I am.
thanks for the contact its nice to no Im not alone out there .
