[Sandydog]

Hi everyone

I really need to run this by you, people who are in the same boat. I am going to meet my birth mother for the first time. She lives abroad, so it'll be a holiday to for me, my husband and two kids. We'll be staying next door, so not in the same house, and it'll be for a week.

Please tell me, are you all gasping and thinking 'no no no, don't do it!', because whenever I tell people who aren't adopted that's what they seem to think.

Perhaps people who weren't adopted have an image of reunions as being either running into each others arms or massive arguments. But I have no issue with my birth mother, and am glad for the life I've had. It's a bonus to meet her.

I've read a few good and a few bad reunions. At the end of the day, if our personalities are not compatible, then that's that, it's something that has to be accepted. Who knows, we could be friends - I'm already in touch with a half sister by email and she's wonderful.

Am I wrong to go into this with an open mind and an open heart?