I went into foster care the second time with high hopes of helping a child and the whole family I wanted to do the visitation so that I could answer any? and be OK that he or she was going back to the birth family one day, after meeting Mom and G parents I found out that she had a 2 yr. old and that G parents had legal custody of him, the birth mother acted like the 2 yr. olds annoying older sister and nothing like a Mom would act. And grandma was Mom to both
They did not ask me about his progress seeing he was taken from her at 1 and half months old you would think they would be nothing but ?????
but NO they spent the hour complaining how they had all been done wrong by DCF.
I asked G parents why they did not step up and foster him like the first one .now I was this baby's 4th foster home in 3 months and they said he was often dirty and smelled like smoke and was also sick a lot with the foster homes he was in I asked them why did you leave him in foster care if he was miss treated they said
because we are to old and tired of helping our daughter out of the messes she has gotten her self into they asked if they where to lose him would we adopt him and I said we would love too. they said they thought it would be best for him.
now the Gparents and her would visit once a month and also missed 1 court date
they have an older daughter in her late 30s but she's not married and has no kids and works full time she also did not want to foster him.
until they where going to TPR Mom, G parents talked older daughter into fostering him for the sister and then she said I gauss I will adopt him or foster him to the judge after he was in foster care for 10 months with only one visit from aunt. because they decided that I was the bad guy and out to steal there property.
every visit I asked them to foster there Grand child and they would always say no he is fine now that he is living with you and your family.
but they hate me now because the baby cried at all there visits with them they said I was spoiling him. he cried when held by family members but not with me or cw . and stopped when any one else held him and then they decided I was making them look bad to the cw .
. G parents yelled at me and said you will not be adopting him we wont let you now .the next month we went to court and the judge decided that sister was not going to take him now because she was not in his life and did not want him when asked to take him in the beginning, and after 4 foster homes why should she take him from the only stable home he has ever none that the judge wanted the Mom to get it together on her own if she was to get him back she has had 1 visit in 4 months now and
at court the judge told her to visit and do her case plan or she was going to TPR her in April the grand parents are not allowed to visit any more because they are to controlling, the judge TPR them 2 months later at the next visit she showed up with a new boyfriend he informed me that they wanted to visit 2 times a week and then he turned to her and said 2 times a week right she said ya OK he acted as if they were visiting a dog they want to buy at a pet storehe kept saying he's a keeper.this man is 22 years older then her but she date 20 pluse older men that I have seen so far and there has been 3 , my? now after all this. will the sister get a chance to adopt him before us. my husband and I have been married 22 yrs and have a 12 year old that we adopted at the age of 5 we own our home and we all love him more then words can say along with our whole family. I know Mom wont get him back she cant keep a job or a place to live she does not drive and does not visit but once a month at her best. she only does what she is pushed to do. by family or new boy friends
I m scared for him if this case ends up with reunification she is not fit to care for a dog. I know its hard for every one involved I trust that DCF will do what is best for this child who thinks hes already HOME !
so how do you think this will turn out
also the mom is going to have anther baby .will she be able to keep this one if she loses baby D she has already lost the first one to G parents or will they take him or her away as well ?
