Again, thanks to everyone who keep track of this.
Last night our foster baby left our home and was placed with his adoptive parents. It sure was a sad and happy day indeed.
It has sure been a rollercoaster ride.
He is with a very loving couple, who had been married 20 years, with no luck of having a child of their own and had been waiting on the agency list for 3 years. Just the sheer joy in their eyes made us happy. Over the last few weeks we have been having visits gradually having the baby get used to them. They are a great couple, we have made a friendship and they vow to keep in touch with us on his well being.
Deep down inside it hurts, it hurts big time, its like loosing a child of your own, but the flip side we are very happy for this boy that he is with a very, very loving family.
On the other hand we are highly ticked off the way Catholic Charities of Genessee County (Flint, MI) had handled this whole thing. Lying to us saying we could not adopt the child when we could have, keeping things from us (things about the baby we just found out last night), not communicating with us about what was involved (They could have told us that if we ever had the chance with this child, fees would be involved, LARGE fees, we could have done things differently financially in the last year to be prepared. We did not realize the difference between a state ward child and a volunteer placement)
We honestly felt the agency pulled the rug out from underneath us on this. For that reason we will not continue foster care with this agency. If we even do again, it will be elsewhere.
Funny thing is, the adoptive family experienced the same issues with the agency and they will not recommend anyone to adopt there.
Poor communication, no follow through, lying, dropping the ball.
We honestly wanted the best for this child. With the adoption of our other two being final, we could not see putting ourselves further in debt to raise three children when a loving couple had been waiting 20 years to have a child of their own. In the long run it is the best for everyone involved. We left it in God's hands.
Attached in one of the more recent pictures of him, he will NEVER, EVER be forgotten!!