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I just don't want "another kid" I want to be the difference in someone's life. But that's the wrong answer to their questions of our intentions too.
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Actually that might not be the wrong answer! Sometime the answer is the truth and what you really do feel......
The caseworkes who are placing the older children do not really want families that just 'want another child'. They want families who are willing to be there for the child that is placed. Wanting to make a difference in an older childs life is what they need to hear.
The only negative thing I can see from this answer would be if the caseworkers ask you why you want to help these older children right now?........
The caseworkers have such a difficult job....they have to work very hard to weed out the wrong families---thats why the training classes are so flled with doom, thats why sometimes they do not pin point your every request in advance.....why spend the time dealing with some of the details befor the family has gone past the hoops and ordeals that you have already gone past?
Many more families drop out before they get to this point.....if the caseworkers spent a lot of time and attention in advance for families who drop out it would take even longer to get the children placed..... Many times they don't even look at what your requests are until the time for matching comes.....
Some families start the process thinking there is no way they can deal with one issue or another--only to learn they can deal with something different.....the whole precess can cause many families to consider different things so a lot of the questions don't get asked until the family has gotten to the point of looking for a match......our original application was very different then what we ended up requesting because of our journey....
We are one of the few families who didn't even ask for a baby! We thought we were too old and that we would not be considered--but when the match happened I had to decide if I really wanted to change diapers? It was surprising to us to have a one year old placed....we asked for siblings between 3 and 8!
Just go in there honest and you will actually be matched better! Even though our daughter has issues we didn't expect we still feel the match was well done.....go figure that one out!