[waiting home]

Wow, I'm not sure that I was looking for a scolding that makes me look so naive. I'm quite aware of all of the what ifs. I am realistic enough to believe, though, that no matter how much you screen ANY child (regardless of age), you will not know their true colors until they actually live with your family. This is a true risk and no one can guarantee you anything.

I think that all you have mentioned could be true of any child that comes with a traumatic background. Our kids might even be playing with them at school right now. I've seen a lot of really disturbed younger children and that scares me more than the troubled older child. Our bio kids could turn out to be more troubled than some of the waiting kids.

Actually, are not looking for a playmate for my daughter. We are looking for someone she can relate to and a 10 year old is not the right fit. We were asking for 12-14.

The caseworker told us a week prior to this conversation, that she placed a 12 year old in a home with another 12 year old and it was wonderful.

Thanks for the "reminders" though.