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I have a two year old who's been with me since birth -- parents have mental health issues and drug addiction problems. So far he is perfect. We see none of the evidence of behavior problems that his bio-siblings exhibit. I think a lot of what we see as behavior problems in foster care is Reactive Attachment Disorder. If you get a child under three who hasn't attached, you must attend to that need -- the problems will arise if you don't teach this child to attach and become an empathetic human being.
There are genetic mental illnesses, I had a child whose mother was schizophrenic. I am pretty sure she exhibits some of the tendencies to be also. The foster care system will not reveal the mother's health history until you've signed the intent to adopt. (I found out by a therapist who was not supposed to reveal the information)
If you are looking for an infant, you may be best off waiting for a newborn. If you take one a little older, be ready to stay home with the child, spend time bonding and give them a good chance at a good life.
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