While giving your baby up for adoption is not going to be an easy decision, and yes, going back and forth for awhile is perfectly okay.....In the end you must be sure in your heart that you are doing what is right for you and your baby. It will save you from a lot of regret later. Wanting to chose adoption and knowing in your heart you are doing it out of love for your baby is not cold.
It sounds as if your daughter will know you love her. If the aparents raise her to know this then she will understand. I don't believe anyone is trying to tell you what to do. They just want to make sure you have explored every option for
YOUR sake, and for your baby. I know you will make the right decision. You seem to be a Great mom!!!!
Staci
