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Eurydice --
You sound a lot like me a long time ago. I was in college when I got pregnant. I had never had a job that paid above minimum wage, I had no hope of support from my family, the birth father split, and I thought there was no way I could give my son all he deserved.
There was no such thing as open adoption then, or I might have chosen it. I think, though, that it would have been incredibly difficult for me. Even in a closed adoption, where I was told there was no way I could ever contact him again, I always thought of him as my son, not someone else's. But if you give a baby away, he or she does belong to someone else, someone else is her mother, not you, no matter how open the adoption is.
This will probably be the hardest decision you ever have to make. I know you can't really be sure what to do until after the baby is born, so please don't make any commitments before then. That's my only advice. And listen to your heart.
Mary Jane
Birth mother in reunion after 30 years
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