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A thought
I think when you children are toddlers or preschoolers these issues seem inconsequential ... and maybe as adults we forget too. HOWEVER, we have two cc children and two aa children ... I feel VERY strongly that there should be at least one face in the family that "matches" the aa child = for the sake of the children. Particularly if you live in a predominately cc area or if you child will be attending a predominately cc school/daycare etc.
My aa boys are now 8 and 9 and I KNOW it is important to them at this age and can fathom it will be more so down the road. Our cc kids dont really see race yet at all.
I also know how much effort it takes to support AA culture and their heritage in our home -- I cannot imagine doing it for more than one culture.
Have you ever travelled internationally and been a visible minority. Remember seeing that other "familiar" (ie cc) face and striking up a conversation because you have "something" in common. Now imagine living your whole life without that similarity -- I think it would be very hard.= Particularly if every other child in the family matches your parents ...
Because I have both cc and aa kids -- its ALWAYS the aa kids that are assumed to be adopted. Its ALWAYS the aa kids that have to offer an explanation to friends etc. Having a someone else in the family who gets it is a huge resource for them!
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