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While I realize you still have time to think and debate, reading your posts, I sense that your heart isn't toally into adoption. Don't continue dealing with the potential adoptive family until you know on your own what course of action you want to take. If finances are your problem, there are many, many programs available for single parents. You said you had to be involved in your child's life, which is fine, and having a family with another open adoption is a good start, but you need to face the fact that jobs change, life changes, and in 6 months or 6 years, you might be on opposite sides of the country, or even the world. You talk about buying things for your daughter, and I know this will come across as mean, but that won't be your place if you choose to place for adoption. A toy or something on a visit, but not "stuff", not a college fund (which is always going to be needed, at the rate college costs are going up!), none of that. When you place for adoption, regardless of how great the adoption works out, you are no longer the legal or emotional day-to-day mother. You will always be her birthmom, but that's where it ends.
I urge you to really really think about this before you continue. You can email or pm me anytime.
Ress
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