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I want to start by saying that this is my first time to this site, and the first reply. I also want you to know that I can understand where you are, what you are going through, and the difficult road ahead of you no matter what you choose.
I placed my son three weeks ago. I am still new in the whole thing and can tell you it is an emotional roller coaster. I have good days and bad days. The one thing that gets me through the bad days is my confidence in the adoptive family. They adopted a little girl five years ago, and she is wonderful. The family is great and totally open to anything that I need or feel comfortable with. They are very open with their daughter that she is adopted, and I know they are going to do the same with my son. They brought his baby book to the hospital and it was an adopted baby book and they even let me write in it on the birthparents page.
Adoption is a very personal decision. It is one that is made for different reasons for every person. There is no checklist to make it easier. The only advice that I can give to you is to follow your heart on what is the best thing to do for your child. You have shown a great deal of bravery by considering it, and will now need to keep that up by doing the best thing for your child that you can do.
My only other suggestion is to keep a journal of how you are feeling everyday, from here on throughout your pregnancy. It will be a wonderful gift for your child no matter what your decision, but especially if you decide to place him/her. My sister-in-law placed her daughter 11 years ago, and her daughter has nothing but love and respect for her now because of the wonderful life that she has with her family. I hope that this helps a little. Feel free to contact me at anytime if I can be of any help.
Lots of luck, and you will be in my thoughts.
Bella
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