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As I read your post, I could not help but think of our children's birth Mom. We adopted our two children just over a year ago. Both my husband and I love our kids and "our birthmom" very much. We have a very open relationship with the birth Mom and I would not have it anyother way. I want our kids to know all of their family. I have extended an open invitiation to our birth Mom's parents to visit the children, and have offered to bring the children to visit them.
I would advise you to ask as many questions as you feel you need. No question is too small. Talk about the future with you as a member of thier extended family. Will you live near the adoptive parents, and visit regularly? What are your needs as the birth Mom. Ask them how much contact they are comfortable with. Ask them what they imagine your relationship will be like 10 years from now? Trust your gut feelings, and make sure you feel comfortable before you make a decision.
Also, think about the children you may have in the future. You will want the siblings to know each other, right? Make sure you discuss that with the prospective adoptive parents. Choose people who you feel you can have a life long relationship with and people who feel confident and comfortable enough to adopt you as part of their family.
If you would like to chat with me, or our kid's birth Mom please email me.
Thank you for considering adoption for your baby. I have such a soft spot in my heart for moms who place their babies above all their desires--that is the way all Mom's should be. Who ever you choose to raise your children you will have a bond with them like no other. You will have an invisiable thread that ties your lives together for all time. Choose wisely and follow you heart.
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