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Wow! I think open-adoptions can be good and bad. Sometimes, it is too painful for the bmother to see someone else raising their child. Maybe the mother wants to go on in life without any ties, or surprises later in life. If a woman gave her baby up for adoption at 17, and at 35, she has a happy life and family who know nothing about it..and all of a sudden this person comes back into their life, it could cause a lot of problems!
Now, on the flipside...I gave my little girl up for adoption 3 months ago. Every month I get an update and pictures. I met her new parents. They want her father and me to be a Very active part of her life. My boyfriend and I could not have raised this baby right now. We both miss her terribly, and when we see pictures of her, we know she is okay and well-cared for. Of course we worry about these things, but with these updates , our worries vanish. One day, when she is older, we'll be able to see her, and maybe her visit us. They live in TX and we live in NC...a bit of a drive or flight. I am so happy with an open-adoption, but I can understand why someone would want a closed one.
I do not, however, understand how they deal with not knowing how well their baby is doing. I thought it was all fable about getting motherly instincts when you have a baby...it hit me like a ton of bricks. I love my little girl and her adoptive parents like part of my family...and they feel the same about me..an extended family.
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