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So appropriate that I should find this discussion TONIGHT. Each and every one of my brown friends has given me different advice on caring for my daughter's hair: baby oil, vaseline, pantene and other adult products. One friend who wears locks said to do nothing. I get many many compliments on my daughter's afro from black women. Our daily routine, spritz with water, use pure jojoba oil and pick out; her hair is 3-4 inches long. My daughter is only 19 months.

However, today, a woman, whom I have never seen approached me and after a few minutes told me that I MUST keep my daughter's hair braided, saying that it would never grow if I do not. She told me to use castor oil? (maybe) I am not certain but that is what it sounded like and said I should buy at Sally's. She said that jojoba oil is no good. I have read every book - It's all good hair, tenderheaded: a compilation of hair stories, hairstory: untangling the roots. . . Now, I am confused. We use California Baby shampoo and leave in conditioner; it is a chemical free plant based line of products. My daughter is a big thumb wrist sucker, and I have to be sure that anything I put on her head can safely go into her mouth, as some will eventually get there. Help!

I do not wish to use an adult, chemical based product for now. Do you have any other suggestions? What about other pure oils or pure Shea butter?

Oh Linny, I am sorry about your peanut's hair. That is ridiculous.