Gotta say, Jensboys, your boys are handsome!!!!
Okay............my sixth baby (who is now two years old)........has very, very kinky hair. I didn't have much of a clue as to how to take care of it, so, right after she was born, I started asking ANYONE and EVERYONE who was AA or had adopted AA children.....just 'what they did'.
As someone else mentioned, I got as many answers, as I did questions. I have tried SO many different conditioners, shampoos, oils. I'm a BIG stickler on the smell of the product. I found that a lot of the stuff I tried, I didn't care for the smell.
So.........my own hair dresser suggested BIOSILK made by Farouk. She had seen it suggested at a conference she went to. It has been the best product I have tried; and I have to say that my cabinet is FULL of hair products that have paled to the BIOSILK.
I won't put my little girl's hair in extensions at this age....that's just me. I haven't cut it...and she was born with a LOT of hair. But, I've had AA gals (we shop in a college town) stop me to say that I'm doing a good job on her hair.
I spritz wet her hair down with water every day. I pat it dry. I apply the biosilk. It's great because it gives her hair a lot of moisture, but doesn't leave much of a residue. I wash her hair each week....sometimes a little longer. I wash it with a conditioning shampoo, towel dry, then apply a leave in conditioner (I've tried several here......one seems to do as well as the others I've tried.)........then, I apply the biosilk.
I either put her hair in 'pigtails' or one pony tail on top. I know the day is coming for cornrows and braids (and yes, I've braided it, but she didn't like it....told me so). She has a hard time sitting still for much more. When she's older, I'm taking her to the salon to have it done. And....in time, I'm sure this mid-forties gal (me) will learn to do it!!!! LOL!
On the other hand, we just brought home our last baby (also AA). The folks who had her didn't have a clue how to take care of her hair (which is not as kinky as my older daughter's). So, her hair is practically GONE! They used regular rubber bands, pulled it up so tightly it made US want to cry (this is how she came to us). Most of her hair has broken off; and I find it inexcusable that they were allowed to care for her, without finding out the knowledge of 'how to do her hair'.....and it's in the condition that it is! I mean, it didn't just fall out overnight!!!! (Just HAD to vent there, folks!)
So, little by little, it's growing out, and one day she'll have a full head of lovely hair.
That's just my two cents on caring for hair.
Sincerely,
Linny