Passingthrough 5,
As you can see there are a lot of choices out there. You just have to try a few and see what works for your child. Even as an AA mom I have had to figure out what works for my daughter. Our hair comes in many different types. I commend you for asking for help.
I dread washing my daughter's hair because her hair becomes one tangle poof. She has long hair and it takes a while to comb out. She also hates to get her hair done. When she was your little one's age we both spent time in tears over doing her hair. She is three now. We have finally come to a compromise. I have found that spraying it with detangler after it is washed helps. I buy the regular kids detangler usually used by cc children. I also use a blow dryer once a month. I use one with a wide tooth comb on the end. Make sure it is on low and not used often. It can dry out the hair. Make sure you have greased her hair before you use the blow dryer. The blow dryer helps to straighten it and then it combs out easier. My daughter likes the blow dryer because mommy has one too.
Nanita,
My hats off to you lady. I can't corn row to save my life. I wish I could. It would make my mornings go a lot faster.
Pantene now has a hair product line for aa. It smells really good and works well for us. I've even caught my husband using it.
Depending on the type of hair your child has, leaving it down for too long will make putting it up harder. My daughter's hair gets frizzy and tangled.
Now I am going to get off this site and find that book that was mentioned.
Toya