[laralong]

As I have posted before my husband and I are both 26. My husband and I have not had any children as of yet. I am a little further along in wanting children than he is. He is still enjoying his independence. I talk to him a lot about having kids which he says he will want one day. Last week he started saying he felt we should adopt. He is not from the US and mentioned adopting from his country. According to his country's regulations we could not adopt because we are not infertile. So, that is an impossiblity. But after looking at message boards I am interesed in adopting through DSS. We want a healthy infant and aren't in a rush. If it doesn't come through we can have our own childen after a few years.

I personally feel that this is our decision and I don't think my parents have a real say in the matter. From the time I was young I thought about adopting. I have talked to my parents in passing before when I was younger and my mom seems to find an importance in having a child with your husband and thinks my idea of adoption is just silly. She probably doesn't take it serious. My dad is a social worker who I would like to ask for advice/help but feel he might tell me it is too early in our relationship for kids (we used to fight a lot about a year ago) though we have been married almost three years.

Utlimately, I feel it is my decision. I feel like if it happens then I will tell them. I doubt it would ever happen since I want to adopt an infant.

I feel like I am babbling on and on but I don't see it is necessary to tell them if it might not even happen. And it might be hard to get reference letters without telling people. But why tell people only to have them waiting for something that never happens.

Any advice/suggestions/comments/etc...