[Missy M]

As a b-mom I take issue with my daughters placement being defined as a "temporary problem*. It wasn't; it was a immediate need that required a permanent resolution. My daughter wasn't a "too expensive" winter coat that I could put in lay-a-way until I could afford her, she was a living breathing human being that deserved a 2 parent family that had the desire, love, time, money, mauturity and everything else she needed from day one.
I have stated this before but will do so again; I was never "too poor" to parent my child. My parents were both Dr.'s; my Dad an Ed. Phd. and my Mom an Orthodonist. My paternal Grandad was an Attorney, my maternal Grandad a dentist too. Money has never ever been an issue for us, I grew up in a gated community with a pool, tennis courts, ballet lessons, horse stables etc. All of this was made all the more special because we are AA. My family was/is very prominate and very wealthy. My Great- Grandparents discovered oil on their property appox. 80 years ago and its been flowing ever since.
I had all the money I needed and other options such as an Aunt who was unable to concieve and a former Nanny who would have accepted $200.00 a week to care for my daughter. I placed my daughter because I was emotionally unprepared to raise her and I was not going to gamble on her being OK until I became so.
By saying that there are other ways to address this issue other than adoption in this forum is very tasteless and disrespectful. I ask you what your point in saying that is? MissyM