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Originally Posted By prayingforamiracle

Kateri,
I am so impressed by you and the postive outlook you have. We,also, are new at this and just like Susan, we have our questions and fears. Not being able to have our own child naturally just makes me feel all the more in "AWE" of birthmothers. I really "do" know in my heart the unselfish love that a bbmom must have to let go of something so unique and special. When I was younger and knew I couldn't have kids then (at age 26)
I hurt. But as time as gone on, I have hurt in a deeper way. It is no longer just hurt over not being able to carry my own. The void that only a child can fill will never ever be filled without the love and desire of the bbmom. She is our ONLY hope. Do I understand what she is giving?? when she gives me her child??? I certainly hope so (for it is LIFE in the true sense of the word)
Only aparents that haven't had enough time to deal with their "true lose" or parents that have their own, and it came easy for them, could "EVER" look at a birthmom that gave her wonderful child up for adoption and judge that person. They are ignorant of the true love it took to do that!