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wow, everyone was posting at the same time.
here in mass we have adoption parties. I went to a few of them and they are awful. the first one i went to i had to leaveafter 20min, it just so sad.
but here is why they have them......DSS has so many kids that need to be adopted, they have stated they hate giving adoption parties, but more kids get adopted from those parties then anywhere else. They have stated they are more then happy to listen to other ways to get these kids adopted, but so far the adoption parties get more kids adopted.
they are mostly younger kids that go there, there are clowns, rides, games...its like a fair. The kids are told in advance on what they are going there for, but they are having so much fun, they dont mind going.
However, the older kids tend to stay away after a while because they start to get depressed and just dont go. They are not forced to go, they ask if they want to go.
Alot of adoptive parents that are looking to adopt, might not actually talk to the kids atall. There are booths set up with social workers from all the different agencies and you get to talk to them and about the kids that are posted, and most of the kids are not actually at the adoption party.
Its a way to get your name out there with these social workers.
i will never forget when i went to one, there was this girl, she had to be about 13-14 yrs old. She was so skinny, and had cat glasses on (remember those) and hmmm, how should i say this, she was the homeliest child that i have ever seen.
She was wearing a white party dress with all the fringes....mind you, this was a barbecue, alot of dirt.
I just watched her for a little bit and then i looked at my wife in tears and said "its time we go...."
I will never get that image out of my mind probably till the day i die. Its was so heartbreaking.
it killed me to see her there, she dressed up so nice in hopes to meet a family. Im telling you, it just killed me. that was the last adoption party that i went to.
dadfor2
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