[Missy M]

Originally posted by MsChris334
I had a baby girl and she was adopted by a wonderful family, I met through an agency, They have sent me pictures and letters, and my Mother thinks its wrong that I get these from them, She says "since I gave her up". Why is it wrong of me, wanting to know about her life now?? Do I not deserve to know about her??

I am also a b-mom. Maybe your Mom isn't aware of what goes on in adoption today. Perhaps she is simply feeling like they did long ago whan we were told to "get over it." As a grandmom to a placed child she maybe attempting to deal with her loss by not dealing with it at all, even through you. I can't explain it from her point of veiw; but like anyone you have a right to your thoughts and ideas, and no one can say what is right or wrong except you. I don't know why dpen asked how old you are but IMO if you are old enough to to give birth you are old enough to decide what type of adoption you and your childs parents should have. You are old enough to have letters, and anything else you want and agree to. There is absolutely nothing wrong or even unusual about you wanting to know about your daughters life...not now not ever. Its not unusual for love ones not to be supportive, but it doesn't mean you are wrong....We Care...MissyM