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Hi
Where I come from Adoptees have got much more rights than the birthparents for searching - 'the ball is in the adoptees court' so to speak. Bparents are powerless in most situations about anything to do with their children that were adopted from the moment that adoption occurred onwards.
I have heard that some birthmothers requested/or come to request that they not be contacted - I personally do not approve of this and I think that bparents have a responsiblity to their long lost children to give as much information as possible and meet them or speak to them when contacted.
I also know that some Adoptees do not want contact and/or reject contact, can at least let their birth parents know that they are basically ok and what kind of life they had even if they do not want full contact.
Life is a 2 way street even when there is apparent inequality between the triad at times.
Rowan
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