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Back in my day (1970) BOTH adoptive and birth parents were TOLD how things were going to be done, not asked.
In fact, even though my son and I are reunited, his adoptive mom has passed away, and we have the complete authorization of his adoptive father, WE STILL CAN'T open the records to get a copy of his original birth certificate. Is that pathetic or what?
Many times the excuse of "protecting the privacy" of the birth mother is used. I think the ones that want their privacy invaded far out number the ones that wish to remain anonymous.
Regardless of a birth mother's feelings about developing an on going relationship with their placed child, most would want to know that child survived, and would be willing to provide pertinent medical history. If we had known how many medical conditions are linked to heredity back then, more specifics could have been provided at placement time. I think many of the adoptive parents got just as frustrated. What parent doesn't want any and all access to medical information that could help their child.
Trish
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