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In my experience as a searching birth mother, I disagree. I have no power now, nor did I have any power at the time of the adoption. In my experience (and I can only speak for me) the power lies with the amom. There were promises made...never kept, there were offers made...quickly forgotten, and once to papers were signed, it was over for me when the door slammed.
In 1972, things were much less humane than what they appear to be today.
Mine was a private adoption. Nobody ever spoke to me of "sealed records," and I had no clue what kind of quagmire I'd be wading through all these years later. Beleive me, as you read more and more of these posts you will see how powerless many of us birthparents really are.
Don't be deterred in your search...things are often not what they appear. Good luck!!!
Debra
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