[ILMomof2]

My husband and I were in the exact situation almost a yr ago. We had just completed 2 adoptions and put out over $35K, had a small house that we had refinanced and 2nd mortgaged for the adoptions, and had no more to give, when one of my son's birthmoms decided to place her 2.5 yr old for adoption- there was just no way we could do it, and I regret that decision every day of my life. And to make matters worse the adoptive family of my son's brother hasn't answered my emails, and so I am crushed my son will never know his brother.

So, if possible, learn from my mistake and do whatever you can to keep these sibs together.