Just this week, actually, Shannon mailed me and said that she was done holding a grudge over the letter. She said that the holidays were horribly uncomfortable for her because it was the first time, since she and I "hooked up" that she had spent large blocks of time with Mary Ellen and her kids....and she felt like the entire time they were together, she was having to keep this enormous secret. She said it bothered her to the point that she just wanted to pretend she didn't know anymore.
I was pleased to hear from her, but it sort of ticked me off that it seemed that MY secret was what made her uncomfortable, when I didn't invite her into this in the first place -- her
mother did. And she accepted the "liason" position in this of her own free will....I never asked a thing from her. She made contact with me --I didn't make contact with her.
It's really NO ONES secret, but Mary Ellen's.......
It's such a shame that we all have to feel the guilt and the weight of it on her behalf.
BUT -- that's the way it is!
I hope Shannon tells me about the letter, and what happened after Mary Ellen got it. It would really put it all to bed for me, so to speak.
Hugs,
Sally