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I hope this doesn't mean you're leaving the board. I've found the advice you give to be very helpful and had it not been for you and others, I probably would have 'drowned' months ago instead of 'learning to swim.' Parents who have been there are honestly the ones with the best advice. I read everything I could get my hands on about RAD before my sons were placed with me, but nothing prepared me for the reality of the peeing, stealing, lying, raging, and everything else that comes with it.
I agree it is very frustrating when people ask for advice and then don't like what they hear, so turn the other way. Especially when there are children being lost in the mix.
Many months ago, I posted about how my 9yo's sexual acting out. The advice you gave was hard to hear, but it also gave me hope. Hope that he could heal. We did keep trying. We tried for 4 more months, until cps told us to stop. We didn't want to. I still wanted to believe I could save him and keep his brother safe too. The disruption 2 weeks ago was hard, but had we not held on as long as we did, the truth about what my son was doing and what had been done to him would have never come out.
There is nothing in the world more difficult than parenting a hurt child. We all jump in head first and sink or swim. The only thing that keeps us going is other parents who can teach us to swim. Please don't give up on the swim lessons. There are plenty of us out there that still need them.
Blessings,
Jenny
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