cyndi1969: I agree with Support2Adopt and others that suggested unbiased counseling. You didn't mention how old the bioFather is and what role he would play if your stepdaughter kept her child.
I personally am grateful to my bioParents that they had the wisdom to know they were not capable of parenting at the time and loved me enough to want me to have parents that were truly ready to parent.
amom4life's post reminds me of my step-daughter. She was pregnant at 17 and kept her daughter. Her daughter also
struggled through her Mother's crazy life with her and it shows in her daughter today.
tnewton8351:
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"Ultimately though it is her and the father's decision. It is a decision that they will have to live with for the rest of their lives. . . . She has to live the rest of her life with whatever decision she makes. You don't. . . . I believe that when teenagers decide they are old enough and adult enough to have sex then they have to make adult decisions. They have to endure the consequences of their actions. By that I mean they have make a decision and live with it."
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Unless this 16 year old and her boyfriend are capable of living on their own and raising a child, it is not accurate to tell their parents
"She has to live the rest of her life with whatever decision she makes. You don't. . . ." It will have a huge affect on the families. I agree that at times we have to live with the
consequences of actions. I just don't feel that others should have to live with the
consequences of my actions not my parents and certainly not an innocent child.
Free_to_be_me:
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"I made the best decision for myself, my child and her adoptive parents and extended family. I really can't think of anyone who is not benefiting from my decision. I, personally, have never once wavered about the rightness of my decision."
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It's clear that this was extremely painful to you and I just wanted to say I give you so much credit for making a difficult decision. You put the best interest of your child first. So often we only see those that complain that their parents didn't step up and parent their children so they were
forced to place for adoption. I personally don't feel it is the responsibility of the parents to take on raising the child. If they want to help ~ as your parents were willing to do, that's great. I just don't feel
help/support should be demanded ~
You have money ~ give it to me and then held against the parents if they don't do it.