[FatBirdy]

This is a tough question that has been debated on this forum many times. Some say yes, some say no, many say that the situation should be evaluated on an individual basis......in this situation - First, your husband should stand up for himself and let bmom know how much it hurts him when she constantly lets him down. Perhaps he could tell bmom that he feels like he is being strung along. Looks like bmom likes to know him and about him but is having trouble letting out her secret - which we can all totally understand; however, he's given her 6 years....that's insane. I also think your husband should put on the pressure and let her know that he is serious...that some changes need to be made for this relationship to continue. He's not happy right now she he needs to discuss this with bmom...perhaps they can come to a compromise that makes everyone, at least, happier than they are now!!