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Hi,
I'm not going to say what I think your daughter should do because that is a decision that she needs to make. I will share though that I became pregnant at the age of fifteen and I kept my baby. Now that we are both older I do wish that I would have made an adoption plan for him.
His father and I were engaged at the time but decided to wait until I finished high school. He was four years older than me. We did go ahead and get married after I became pregnant and it was a diaster to say the least.
My son deserved better than I could give him but for whatever reason I didn't figure this out until he was in his 20's. We had a real rough life and I admit much of it was from foolish decisions that I made. Plus I didn't think so then because of course at fifteen I knew everything but there was No way I was ready to be a parent. I was young, immature, and selfish and it shows in him today, he is the same.
I wish that I would have chosen to let a family parent him who could have given him all he needed emotionally, physically, and materially instead of making him struggle through my crazy life with me. He might not be the messed up young man he is today and I will carry guilt over this for the rest of my life.
Just something to think about.
Judy
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