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I wish I had been and Ipen Adoption
As an adoptee and teenager I can understand why your stepdaughter would want to keep her baby. I have seen some of my fellow classmates choose that option. Personally, I do not feel that any teenager no matter how mature is fully able to raise a child, as we are still children ourselves.
I am an adoptee of a closed adoption. There are many times where for no reason at all I simply become upset. I am in one of these times right now. I feel like there is an empty hole in my heart. My A parents are wonderful people and give me everything in the world that I could ever need and want. Yet, they cannot give me the bond that I lack, which is the maternal bond. I long for this bond. As soon as I turned 18 I started my search for my b mom. That search is ongoing. What I am finding is that while adoption is in my opinion the best option for teen mothers there is a fatal flaw in it for the adoptees. The adoption laws are so tight and hard to break through. Yes, they have gotten better, but not quite open enough yet.
Open-adoption gets around these laws in my opinion and offers a mutually rewarding relationship for both B mom and adoptee. A teen mother is not quite ready to be a mom yet, however she can offer that maternal bond that would otherwise be lacking in her childs life.
Sincerely,
Kristin (adoptee, birthday May 6, 1985; PA)
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