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Cyndi,
Well, without being able to adopt, we wouldn't be parents, as biology was against us. Beyond that, being a parent in a fully open integrated adoption has been an amazing experience. Ryan is loved by so many, all of whom want him to have a terrific start in life.
Ryan's bmom was 18 when she became pregnant, so she wasn't much older than your daugther. Being in an open relationship means she spends time with us, shares pictures, special events, etc. Ryan has 9 grandparents between birth and adoptive families, which is very exciting for him. We are all very close.
If you haven't already, I'd suggest you contact Brenda Romanchik at Open Adoption Insight (google it) as she's a very unbiased adoption educator.
I'm not going to put 'sunshine and roses' around it - making an adoption plan and placing Ryan were very difficult things for Ryan's bparents. What they've told us over and over though is that they love him more than anything and wanted him to have parents who were ready emotionally to raise him well.
HTH, best of luck,
Regina, Amom to Ryan Joshua Thomas
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