[bubby2six]

Thanks for the replies. We are looking for all and all help we can get to make this as supportive and loving as we can be, for everyone concerned.
My daughter in law's parents are very opposed to this adoption and are filling my son's head with garbage. They are telling him that when she turns 16 she'll look at him with hate and say, "What's the matter with me, you kept my brothers, why not me?" , along with all kinds of other things. We have assured my son's in-laws that they will be known to her, we will send to them personally pictures of her , as well as updates. I don't know what else I can do. Any suggestions?
My d-i-l will be arriving here on Saturday. She is very secure in her decision and knows she is doing the right thing for her and the baby, as well as her other children. That being said, this is no easy thing and I know how hard it will be for her. Can you reccommend a specific books that will help her deal with her grief?Maybe even from a Christian perspective? I just don't want something that talks about bad experiences and is negative .
Thanks again,
Kelly