[HAIR127]

HELLO CHARISA.....I CAN HEAR YOUR PAIN. THAT IS SO HORRIBLE WHAT HAPPENED TO YOU...NO ONE TO SUPPORT YOU WHEN YOU NEEDED THEM THE MOST. HAVE YOU EVER THOUGHT OF WRITTING A JOURNAL TO YOUR SON. SOMEDAY YOU MAY DECIDE TO GIVE IT TO HIM OR NOT. WRITTING HELPS THE PAIN...TO GET IT OUTSIDE OF YOURSELF.I DIDNT GO THROUGH WHAT YOU DID. MY SITUATION WAS DIFFERENT. BUT....I WAS ALWAYS THE CHILD IN MY FAMILY THAT MADE EVERTHING OK. WHEN I GOT INTO THEROPY..MY THEROPIST SAID...JANET..ROCK THE BOAT!! I HAD NEVER DONE THAT BEFORE IN MY FAMILY. I ALWAYS DID THE FIXING OF PROBLEMS. NOW WAS MY TIME TO GET MY NEEDS MET..INSTEAD OF HELPING EVERYONE GET THEIR NEEDS MET. I HAD NEEDS TOO!!!!!! MY FAMILY WAS ...DONT TALK ABOUT IT....... DONT FEEL FEELINGS.......AND BELIEVE WHAT I TELL YOU...NOT WHAT YOU SEE. FINALLY WITH ENOUGH COUNCILING I CONFRONTED EVERYONE IN MY FAMILY. WOW DID THAT OPEN UP A WHOLE NEW WORLD!!!! NOW I GET MY NEEDS MET. I AM A LOT MORE OPEN WITH MY FAMILY AND IF ANY OF THEM EMOTIONALLY ABUSES ME IN ANY WAY...IM OUTA THERE. ROCKING THE BOAT MAY MAKE YOUR PARENTS DEAL WITH THEIR PAIN SURROUNDING THIS. AND THAT IS GOOD...NOT BAD! IT SOUNDS LIKE THAT PAIN HAS BEEN KEPT DOWN FOR YEARS ..WITH ALL OF YOU. I SAY...ROCK THE BOAT! {{{{{{{{{{{HUGS}}}}}}}}}} JANET