[spaypets]

Indeed, my agency wouldn't allow a reference by a family member--it had to be someone unrelated.

And as other people said, there wasn't any pulling of medical records, there was a form and I could have gone to a doctor who didn't have my records. No where did I sign anything that gave them permission to view my records, only a standard form from the doctor.

I was fingerprinted three times by two different agencies (although if I had been doing a domestic adoption, the fingerprinting would have happened only when I went to finalize after DD had been in my home six months!).

My home visit was cursory -- I didn't have to have my water tested. She might have looked for smoke detectors but she never looked for any other safety device.

Suppose they did interview family members, btw. You've already said that you are the only person who is objecting and you're hesitating to get involved and tell the truth -- what good would it have done?

I really don't see what your dilemma is. If the situation is as you say, then you have a moral obligation to try to stop this travesty. If you don't you are as bad as your brother -- you are part of the conspiracy of lies.