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BrandyHagz: I've tried several times to finish this book, but it just gets me so annoyed. First, it states things as if they are a fact instead of just one persons opinion ~ and not even an adoptee that is writing about their own feelings. Second it states that ALL ADOPTEES feel this wound. I find such blanket statements deliberately misleading and totally incorrect. We are all unique human beings and one cannot say ALL ADOPTEES anymore than one can say ALL MEN, ALL WOMEN, ALL BIOPARENTS, ALL APARENTS, ALL BLACK PEOPLE, ALL WHITE PEOPLE etc. As an adoptee, I did not personally relate to anything that I read.

stacyone: "You know, I read an interview with Verrier where she admitted she never really bonded the same way with her adoptive daughter as with her biodaughter. I can't help but wonder if coming up with the "primal wound" idea was her way of excusing her own guilt... just a thought..."
I've seen others post that they saw the same interview and came to the same conclusion. Sounds logical to me. If a person has a tendancy to excuse her own behavior, it would follow that she would have a theory that would give others an excuse for their behavior.

dadfor2: "IMO just thought she was off her rocker.....my wife did too...." Well said ~ LOL

Mary RamireZ: "I wounder if a lot of adoptive parent do not read any books after they adopted."
My parents read Dr. Spock books which is what most new parents read in the 50's.

Katiebaby: "I plan on ordering another copy for my birthmother."
If you do give your birthmother a copy of this book I would be sure to let her know that you are not blaming her for your "wounds". I've read posts by some birthmothers that took this "theory" to heart and felt horribly guilty for relinquishing their child to a life of inevitable pain.