Thankx for reply
Hi Thank you for your reply
We did not get TPR as ** gave a sworn statement that she did not know the identity of BF and I'm told that is usually good enough for where we live. ** will not diclose the identity of the BF to us or the adoption agency. Our lawyer has formally requested this information and it has not been given. No BF has stepped forward and registered with the registry.
Yes we did get her set-up to have a social worker and I am sure that she has been talking to her. (Her mom is not supportive of the decision and ** has estranged herself from her immediate family - she lived with the social worker for a few days and the went back home and now she is living with a distant relative.)
We don't have an open agreement, in fact all the paper signed are for a closed agreement.
One of the reasons that the ** chose us is that we are as far away from her as she could place the baby. ** is on the east coast and we are in Canada on the west coast. ** wanted nothing to do with this baby originally.
I am very glad that she is interested in him but I just don't see the need to talk to her a few times a week. ** just cries and says the same things. I find it emotionally draining. I understand that she has substaincial pain but she does need to move on even a little. (She would like to come up here and stay with us for a while - what would I do with her up here, but how do you say no to a sobbing girl 19yrs old)
I guess I didn't think it would be so complicated, other people I know don't run into all these birth mom problems.
Thank you for listeming
Carol
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