[JandTHall]

Ok.. here's the situation. My daughter is 2 1/2 yrs old. When I became pregnant her birth father and I had a nasty split and didn't speak until after I gave birth. However, during that time I met another man and he was with me from the delivery room and on. My daughter sees my husband as her father and of course is too young to understand that someone else is her biological father. My husband wants to adopt her and we have talked to my ex and he has agreed. However, it seems my ex has had this big epiphany and has decided he doesn't want to miss out on seeing "his" daughter. However, like me, he agrees that my husband is her daddy and he was just a sperm donor. However, since I grew up without a father and met him years later its important to me that my daughter know both men. We are planning to do the adoption in the next few months... however my ex does seem to have really matured and turned over a new leaf. I am open to having him in our lives but being known as my friend, chris not her biologicaly dad chris. Later in life I would, of course, tell her he was her biological father but I think doing it too early would be hurtful to her. Does anyone have any experience in this area? Did you know your birth parent and not know it was them? I really don't know what to do and I'm really scared. My married isn't working great and I have my doubts if it will last. However, even if it doesn't he is still her daddy and I wont take that away. But I need to know what to do, what is best for my daughter. Thanks in advance