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yngstepmom!
I know where you are right now... I've been there myself. I became a step mom at 19. The bio mom was a piece of work! She was doing the drugs in front of her daughters (one was my step daughter). We couldn't get someone to do anything, the health and human services in nebraska told us that she wasn't in any immediate danger, because she came home and got fed, bathed, breathing clean air, and so on.
We got full custody and then when it continued on her weekend visits, we fought harder and we got supervised visits only. The bio mom here is still in trouble, jail for theft at the moment!
Anyway... my advice to you is..... Keep a diary of everything! Take pictures of how your soon to be step son comes to you, the behaviors he displays, take notes on times of visits, if they started on time or late, if she picked him up on time or late. I know how tedious it is and how you don't want to spend time writing notes about the woman, but it really helps. If we hadn't of done it, we wouldn't have gotten supervised visits. We are now trying for terminated so I can adopt my daughter. If you are serious about this, make sure you are very thorough and listen very carefully to the way your step son talks, because kids say things that they don't realize could be important!
Good Luck!
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