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I was very lucky! I would have felt guilty POSTPONING my search, because my amom wanted to meet my bfamily so badly!
There have been times when I have been conscious of not hurting my amom's feelings, but I have learned to check those feelings. My amom and I both know that I have deep, unconditional love for her, and that no relationship will ever take away from that. I know that she has felt a bit jealous at times, but she tries desperately not to show it, and I know that it is only natural. My bmom has the same jealousy, as well.
There is no pleasing everyone all the time in a reunion. Some go better than others, but you have to allow to yourself to feel what you feel, and feel comfortable expressing what you want to express. If you are close with your aparents, a healthy relationship with your bparents is not going to change that! Sure, there is a chance that things won't go well, but if you don't take that chance, you'll never know!
My amom and bparents get along extremely well. It means so much to me, and I would not give up this time in my life for anything!
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