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Originally Posted By jands

Hi Amy,
It is a tough decision, and you need to get some professional advice before you make it. There are two free options. Crisis Pregnancy Centers, which will counsel you on parenting. They may not be big on adoption. Adoption agencies, the good ones, will counsel you on parenting and adoption. You can go to more than one to find one you like most.

You will want to take your boy friend to these meetings, so that he can explore the issues of parenting and adoption.

He has to relinguish his rights in order for you to place your child for adoption. If he will not, you can allow him to keep the child, or you have to keep the child.....No on can adopt your child he refuses to sign.

It sounds like you could make a go of it if that was your choice, but only you will know the right decision. Adoption is a good choice in many situations, and you are considerate to at least think about what is best for the child in the long run. :-)

Either way will be tough to decide, but with the proper counseling and time, you will make the right choice.

There is adoption chat on Monday nights for birthmoms around 8:00 or 9:00pm Eastern - I think. That can be a good source of help, too.

Good luck in your decision, and may you have comfort and peace with it.

jands