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My take is a little different. Our youngest was just over 3 when we brought her home, and had only been in the orphanage a year. She was called by her birth name there, and as she got excellent care, she heard it all the time, so we NEVER would have dreamt of abruptly changing it. After all, it was one of the only pieces of her past she could bring with her. Instead, we gave both her and her sister, adopted at age 6, new middle names (the had none before), and it is up to them which name to use and when. The youngest, who just turned 4, oscillates all the time and often wants to be called by both; the eldest often says she wants to use her middle name but never "enforces" it the way her sister does. All this is just my 2 cents, of course. Maybe with a younger toddler, a child who has an "orphanage name," or a child who got scant attention in an orphanage, I would feel differently, who knows?
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