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Originally posted by MADjj
i totally agree.. see i have been reading info on my bmom that i was given. i know that she was mentally ill, that my father claimed i wasn't his and that they were split up (later divorced) when i was born , and that she was also around 20yrs old. i was taken from my bmom for continued gross neglect, but i don't blame her. i too suffer from mentall illness, and many days i struggle just to get out of Bed!
The one thing that made me decide to look for her though, is that before i was given up for adoption, she tried to get me back - the judge was going to do it, since she had gotten help and changed quite a bit, but she never showed up to court.. i kinda want to know why? If my mom went thru so much to try to get me back why didn't she come to court.
I also have pictures of my bmom and my bdad, and i really think I look like him, no matter what he thinks.... same blue eyes blond hair and personallity- HUGE GRIN ON HIS FACE!!! Unfortunately i seem to have inherited more of my bmom's bad characteristics - weight... mentall ilness.. etc i also believe i got my bad vision from my bdad... he's legally blind now. i dont expect anything from a reunion, i just wish for some answers, and some closure.. I don't blame anyone for anything, i just want an end to my search!.
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Just a thought, 'cuz I have no way of knowing what your bmom was really thinking or going through at the time K?
I came (come) from a very unsupportive (mildly put) family where I was told from a very young age that I was no good. It may be the situation with your bmom that she did indeed want to get you back, but in the long run had to give up on the belief that she could be of any good to you. I wonder how many people told her you would be better off with a loving stable family, and that she had nothing to offer you? Again dear it's just a guess, but I hope that someday soon you will find out the answers. She may very well have gone on to get good psychological help (much more available now), and is living a healthy productive life. I'm sorry to hear that you are having difficulties as well, may there be bright days ahead for you.
Be well...