Most of the responses here seem to be from women who have been in the same shoes - I am the opposite. I am an amom in an open adoption. The first thing that came to my mind as I read your post was that if I was the potential adoptive parent for your child, I would be wondering why you are even considering adoption in the first place. Sorry, but that was my honest to G-d first thought. It is clear that you love your child ( not that mothers who relinquish don't love their children), you have the education and what sounds like the means to raise this child. And most important, you seem to have the desire and need to parent this child. I am all for adoption - in the right circumstances. These days single parents are as common as two parent families. Perhpas the father of your child is afraid? Perhaps the baby is not yet "real" to him, since he cannot feel it, etc., like you can. Perhaps being a part-time father is not what he dreamed of when he thought of becoming a father one day? Life throws all of us unexpected curves, and we can only make the best of them. My son's bmom didn't have any means to raise her child - no education, no support, no financial resources, and honestly, no desire. And yet, she STILL struggles with her decision. That child is a part of you, and if you relinquish, even if you are certain about your decision, it is not something that you will just "get over" I would definitely suggest intense counseling and much thought before making an adoption plan.
And one funny about your post was that I just moved from Va. to Fl.
It's a whole lot warmer here, LOL
Best of luck in whatever you decide..............
Hugs
Stacy