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My heart goes out to you. It is a very difficult decision, to say the least. I do not know why the biofather does not want to be a father. Its not about him anyway. Its about you and the child you are carrying. I think the best advice I have ever heard, is educate yourself as to ALL of your options, and choose what you feel is best. I placed my baby for adoption almost 16 years ago. 3 years later, I gave birth to a little girl. The biofather told me he didn't want to have to tell anyone. I was unsympathetic as my 8 foot belly did not allow me to "hide" it! I had already been forced into adoption once, I was determined it would not happen again and I have raised my daughter. Biodad sends a check once a month through the State and has never once seen her. When my daughter was 2, I met a man who I eventually married and he has been a wonderful father to her. My point is, don't base your decision on what HE wants, base it on what YOU want for yourself and your baby. Do what is right for you, and your baby, whether it be adoption of keeping the child. Big Hugs to you!
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