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DianeS
made some really good points I feel.

So I suggest taking her advice along with the others listed above as well.
If you do this is should help alot I feel.

Originally posted by DianeS
Talk to their foster parents, and make friends with them. The fewer things that change from one home to the next, the less worry the children will have, and you'll need their help to accomplish that.

Get their schedule down pat, and use it in your home for the first several days/weeks before transitioning the schedule to the one that will work for you.

Use the same soap, fabric softener, air freshener. Cook the same foods. Smells are very familiar to children.

Do their rooms in the same colors, keep the same bed placement, etc. (And take pictures of their rooms to put in that photo album they'll keep at the foster home.)

Take as much of the children's stuff with you as you can. Their clothes, toys, books, bedsheets, shampoo, etc. If the things they use at the foster home don't belong to the children, offer to purchase them from the foster parents or to replace them with new items.

Be sure that they are being told who you are. Maybe not right away because of their ages, but they should know you as mom and dad before they move in. If possible, foster mom should call you that (ie: "you get to visit your mom tomorrow", "lets look at the picture of your family", "your dad sent this book, would you like to hear it at bedtime tonight?"

And finally, keep life boring for the first few weeks they live with you. It'll be very tempting to take them everywhere and show them off, but don't. It'll also be tempting to take them around to do all the "childish" things you've wanted to do with them for so long, but don't. They need to get to know YOU, and that's best accomplished calmly in the home - baking cookies, painting fingernails, playing games, being normal. Keep gifts and attention from outsiders to a minimum. Put off the "welcome home" party for a few weeks or a month. Etc. It's hard to do that, but usually well worth it!

And congratulations!