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Originally Posted By Leslie

Hi Yvonne
I understand where you're comimg from. My son just turned 18 on June 9th and I've been reading the boards etc. on this site everyday since. It bothers me that women like "excuse me" judge your feelings, I thought this was a place for b-moms to express themselves openly and have other understanding women to be supportive not to criticize. In my day they didn't have open adoption, so here I find most of the young women who have given up their babies get to choose their adoptive parents and also get to have some form of contact with their children. Please try and be more compassionate to those of us who were not born in a time when adoption was open.
For 15yrs. I thought that I had dealt with my pain until I gave birth to my daughter who is now 4. I can not imagine ever parting with her and I questioned myself as to how I could've ever given up my son. Funny how you can change your views as you live more life and mature. Yes, it was for his benefit but it was not for mine, it is truly a self-less act. Everyones experience is going to be different and we should respect that.